Intense feelings that are separate from the situation’s reality. Must be tested. Seek external perspectives, check assumptions, focus on facts, be objective, logical, ask questions, and grab a paper and pen to tally negative self-labels against actual behaviors to analyze discrepancies.
External affirmation in pursuit of intensity, admiration and reassurance. Not for connection itself but instead to stabilize the fragile internal self structure.
Being emotionally available and absent must be so exhausting. Your old habit of passive aggression has been adamant on making a come back in a g
Long-term harmony depends less on romance and more on regulation.
This is the quiet secret. The healthiest partners are not the most self-sacrificing. They are the most self-respecting.
I was attached to the parts of myself that she temporarily activated.
Thinking, this is a place where my depth can matter. My love can land. My intuition can guide. And my nurturing can transform. But it was just a fantasy. 🌙
the Purgatory of a Broken Heart 