Are you looking for more independence or are you simply looking to be held?
There is no right or wrong answer. Technically.
Does my presence destabilize your equilibrium? Then, no amount of care will convert our bond into a growth alliance.
Tag: reality-testing
Adhesive Ambiguity
Unblocked projection is a sign of psychological readiness not weakness. It means that you’re in a world is active, your psyche is searching for relational embodiment, and your future self is organizing.
However, to hold the symbolic role within a projection, there must be some reciprocation of/in reality.
Reality Testing
Intense feelings that are separate from the situation’s reality. Must be tested. Seek external perspectives, check assumptions, focus on facts, be objective, logical, ask questions, and grab a paper and pen to tally negative self-labels against actual behaviors to analyze discrepancies.
the Purgatory of a Broken Heart 