Could it be that you were just a mirror, reflecting back at me? Was our connection state dependent? Did you feel my warmth? Or was it just a reverie?
Tag: soothe
A House with Many Rooms
I roamed in a house with many rooms, until I found you. 🤎
Imagine
24-hour Rule
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If something genuinely matters, it will still matter tomorrow.
– No meaning making
– No relational decisions
– No conclusions
If your body is calmer after 24 hours, then you have permission to analyze. Briefly and surgically. ☀️
Reality Testing
Intense feelings that are separate from the situation’s reality. Must be tested. Seek external perspectives, check assumptions, focus on facts, be objective, logical, ask questions, and grab a paper and pen to tally negative self-labels against actual behaviors to analyze discrepancies.
Validation Hunger
External affirmation in pursuit of intensity, admiration and reassurance. Not for connection itself but instead to stabilize the fragile internal self structure.
the Purgatory of a Broken Heart 